Years can pass so quickly; we all remember times when young people much like in our own homes and how life was; maybe how we remember it to have been. You wonder what happened to so many who once were riding bikes with tons of laugher, sharing dreams and ideas with siblings and friends. Making grown-up plans while heading to school.
It really doesn't seem to matter if your children are in a good home, school or church they still can be affected by things that wish to do them harm. My children are all now grown and from a parents perceptive we did the best, we believed, raising them. My husband would have said, with God's help. Boy, it had to be with God's help, I can speak only for my self saying there were mistakes made and plenty! My husband would have probably said the same as well.
I remember when I was younger living around plenty of cousins, we spent a lot of time together planning and playing. I also made friends from around the neighborhood I'd visit with and we'd walk to school together. We all got along for the most part without to many issues though as most kids I did have a few bullies. Like my boys I had plans and dreams, some came to be and others were squashed or damageds by wrong and bad choices I made looking in the wrong direction.
Over the years I've thought long and hard over decisions made, as from when I was younger and as a parent. I don't talk much about my stupid choices as a teen other than I really was naive - in a sense - more so, I grew without specific guidance needed, only becoming rebellious as a lot of kids in middle school and towards the end of my high school years. Middle - High School was a nightmare, I hated about 90% of my time at school (I'll leave for a later post). I needed a true friend and someone that I could talk to. Specifically, things were so different from when I was younger as when I played with cousins and walked to school with friends. I was totally out of place. I didn't need a parent to be a friend though I needed a parent to hear my problems and be honest - even if what was being said wasn't what was liked. (Saying this, I can't place fault. I most absurdity knew right from wrong.) I was unhappy with my life and looked for something to fill that void.
As I look at these things I experienced and at kids today - looking back through my timeline of life I was deceived by lies that held me in a bad place. Some of those lies are what you may tell yourself. When our adult children make choices it's different from when they were younger. When they were younger you as a parented need to step in with guidance even be willing to hear what isn't liked, but when they are the age of accountability - they're responsible for their choices. Just as I was/am.
The Girl ~
Who was that girl
so long ago?
That raced her
bike with cousins,
on old dirt roads.
Who looked at the
world with wonder
walking through the woods.
Who believed God as I AM.
With twists and turns
choices made,
unhappy came a void.
Only You, Only You.
Turned the clock
restoring the girl,
Your daughter,
that became the wife,
the mom, the widow.
Your daughter.
VLB 4.3.25
God will always bring to pass that which He started. If you are concerned for your small children or adult children place them in His very capable hands. However, it is up to us to share with them what God has for those who are His and the Holy Spirit will be your guide. Trust Him in all things as He works through and in every detail of their lives. And, wait - this is the hard one to do, but what has the very best outcome. As you wait there is also something for you to do, be His daughter or son (who ever is reading this). Be purposeful with your time when you spend it with Him, there is where your peace and strength comes as you wait. Next anticipate what He is doing and pray.
I wanted to pick one verse that would apply to the last paragraph and liked them all.
Philippians 1:6, Ephesians 1:11, Isaiah 46:4 (He will finish what He started in us)
Psalm 138:8, John 10:28, John 6:37 (He is capable and will finish). <<<
Psalm 48:14, Isaiah 58:11, Psalm 32:8, John 16:13 (He will guide)
I had been dubbed Rambling Vik and some time ago and this could be one of those times. I would like to say, we live in a world that is full of things that prick - evils if you will that want nothing better than to deceive us all, we see it every day and don't see the deception that causes so much pain, does so much harm. Believe me I'm not focusing on a negative but am anticipating and eagerly waiting God's outcome.
We question so much as why and where is God in situations and circumstances we might be in. Truthfully I can look back and see all that He has carried me through whether I was walking as I should have been or not, He was there I am His and He finishing what He stated. Sometimes you need a cleanse for the body to heal and be in tune ~
You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives. Genesis 50:20 NIV. [If you haven't read about Joseph - check it out], and in a nut shell - What an enemy meant for evil - God will turn for the good.
This post is a tribute to my mom, and really to all mom's and their self-less, perhaps sacrificial love for their children.
"May your father and mother rejoice; may she who gave you birth be joyful! Proverbs 23:25"
My mom was very young when I was born. Though I don't know where all the photo's have gone over the years, we lived in a a couple places before my brother was born. Though on a surprising note, not to many siblings can say we were born on the same day four years apart. Again, I wished I had more photo's of that time, but I have the pictures and memories I've stored inside.
"And his mother treasured up all these things in her heart." Luke 2:51
This was the first and last birthday I remember ever having when we were kids. Our cousins were there and my childhood friend Diane. I mentioned to mom one time it would have been nice to have had your picture and she responded - well you have the cake I made and my big toe! lol
My brother and I were always together and I watched over him as long as I could remember like a mother hen. On a sweet note to share, mom told me that when he was born I thought he was my birthday present and claimed him as mine. :)
"Children are a heritage (gift) from the Lord, the fruit of the womb (offspring) a reward (from him)" Psalm 127:3 [NLT, NIV, ESV]
A year or two later, and wishing this were a better photo, was our last Christmas spent in this house. The last "magical" one for a kid or I had growing up. After that I remember coming home one day from school with everything in the house gone. Sitting in the driveway was a car packed up, I was introduced to the man driving and we headed out the road for Florida. I didn't get to see or say goodbye to anyone or my dad. I was in first grade we didn't have kindergarten at the time, and I think we were possibly close to our next birthday, but I now have no one to ask.
I never forgot that Christmas and when my boys were little I tried to have my own traditions while keeping one my mom did for us. Oddly enough I couldn't quite recall how the stockings came to be - though I was always filling my boys stockings and placing them on their beds at night so when they woke they had a happy surprise. Later years down the road my mom shared this after I sent a post from my blog to her on stockings I'd been making:
"The tradition with the stockings came from along time ago when I was a kid. When you and Dave were small I would wrap every single thing in your stocking and put them on your bed for when you woke up. I'd hear you guys in there laughing and ripping off paper. I think the stockings were always the high light of Christmas, I know it was for your sisters. It was filled every year until they got married. So was their Easter Basket. When they married they were past to the husbands to continue on, some did and some didn't. I think it all depended on how they were raised in their family. Oh that guy singing I think The Keeper of My Heart (post) what a voice. Enjoyed that a lot. Well I have to close and get ready for work, Miss you.You guys have a wonderful Christmas. oxoxoxoxoxoxox Mom" 12.22.2014
When I think about the selfless or sacrificial love of a mom I do think of mine. After getting to Florida, I wasn't happy there and things weren't good, not right. I did go to school for a bit. There was a gentlemen who lived next store though I didn't quite remember the how I got to school details, the name of the school or how long I attended. Mom mentioned when I was older and married that he was the pastor/something in charge of this Christian School there. I remember the classroom even the kid who sat behind me, he used to eat his pencils then ask for mine! He asked me one day can I have a pencil, I handed him one and said please don't eat this one, he replyed "I won't" - do you promise I asked - he said yes. Honestly, I don't remember if he did after and then we all went out for recess. Oh they did have a pop machine and I had RC with my sandwich. I don't remember how I even got back from school, or even the mans name, only my brother being happy I got back.
Now getting back to the sacrificial love of a mom - I don't know how much time went by all I can say is my mom knew we weren't to be there, it wasn't working. One day my grandpa (pap), my dad's dad, showed up. He and my mom talked for awhile - bags were packed and we walked out to a taxi. Looking back, my mom was standing on the porch and waving goodbye. We watched each other until we drove out of sight and that was the last time we lived with her.
I realize this sounds hard to believe for those who might be reading this. From a young age I knew I wasn't to be there but didn't realize the full extent of what mom did for us. We got on a plane and headed back to PA where we all got on with our lives. We lived in one grandparents house that was next door to the other. I got back to school and went to church every Sunday with my mom's mom and dad. My mom stayed in Florida - remarried and my first sister was born in which my brother and I even played with her when they came to visit grandma and grandpa, she was about three or four. As a mom myself I'm not sure how I would have done this. Mom was next door and we never visited each other. Though I have to believe she had the strength to do what was hard and even heartbreaking - She loved us. I'm also sure it was how she could deal with it.
The Bibles shares about mom's who had a sacrificial love putting their children above their own needs, Moses' mom was one, in order to save her son, she put herself aside to save him to become "Moses." . Exodus 2
Hannah was another, all she wanted was to have a child and in return gave him up - back to the Lord for something better - even greater than realized. 1Samuel 1
Each story here God honored and bless the mother and the children, He answered their prayers. When I was younger and growing into a teen I started thinking about what my mom did. I also felt sad because there was't any real communication with mom, we all just moved forward. We even moved out west years later, of course we always were in contact with my mom's parents and all our other relatives. Mom later sent me little trinkets of mine that I made or had from school even a gift I purchased for her at a school fund raiser, she kept it all. One year I received a poncho she made for me when I was twelve I still have it. She keep my brothers bear in the above picture - which I think he still has. 'Mother's do store up treasures in their hearts' ~
"Can a mother forget her nursing child? Can she feel no love for the child she has borne?" Isaiah 49:15
Sometimes mom's do what is needed while putting themselves aside. I have found over the years having to do what was best all the while putting my desires aside. The Lord also helped me get through many things that were difficult for me what my mom did also took courage and strength that came from an inner source. I don't know if she realized from who at the time and we never got to talk about it, I never brought it up.
"She is clothed with strength and dignity; she can laugh at the days to come." Proverbs 31:25
Years passed and I was married having children of my own, prior to that I found it harder to think about that time and feeling we were robbed of family. I was hurt and a bit angering - enough so that I had to ask for God's forgiveness with how I was feeling. I needed inner healing myself, I learned to forgive.
Now saying this is interesting. I did forgive, however, I still didn't live around my mom she also had a different family of her own. Being we were also in the Coast Guard we did live from one side of the country to the other. One year we traveled to our new duty station in Virginia. In driving distance we weren't to far from family in Pennsylvania. While here I thought a lot about what I asked the Lord.
We had some time off and we planned to go visit family. I asked the Lord and thinking I was good and all was forgiven, I asked Him, if you want me to see her I'll leave it in your hand, saying this while all the while thinking 'plotting' how not to run into her. So we made it PA and to my gramma house. We went upstairs and in the kitchen we sat visiting, I keep thinking my mom was probably at work. To our surprise a car drove up and cellar door opened, gram went to the door and realizing it was mom. She was shook and moving back and worth from door to table didn't know what to do. I said it's okay ~ When my mom saw me she ran to table almost jumping over grabbing me and in tears! Tears of every old emotion passing and we had tears of joy!
"For I consider that the sufferings of this present time are not worthy to be compared with the glory which shall be revealed in us."Romans 8:18
I got to see my other two younger sisters and we all kept in touch - Mom had a birthday party for me and made me a cake.
All of us got together and went to Kennywood Park for the first ever family outing. I even got to ride that wooden rollercoaster I'd been dying to since very young!
I can only speak for myself, I felt as God blessed us being reunited together and it was as years past were wiped clean. All was forgiven and gone.
We made up for lost time. We visited ruins in NM - celebrated weddings and even went to teas.
With this tea, a beautiful time we had and our last in person visit.
"As one whom his mother comforts, so I will comfort you;" Isaiah 33:13
God in his love for all of us comforted us at our time apart. I believe my mom believe that we would all be together one day. I think that was our hope.
While in Florida I have to share this and really what started my thoughts on this post/Tribute to my mom.
Last fall I had a dream that was so real. My mom and I were way up in the air it seemed like we were sitting in a small plane and facing each other. Mom was sitting near a window and she looked beautiful and without using oxygen. I had the sense we were floating actually felt weightless and airy to touch. It was sunny with the most beautiful clouds - then I woke up. What came to mind as I was smiling she would be leaving soon. I shared the dream with her not saying what I believed.
I had one other dream while she was in rehab. They were hoping to help strengthen her to return home. I believe we all knew she wasn't necessarily recovering but we were hopeful she would at least breathe more comfortable and enjoy her time. (my thoughts anyway) So while she was there I talked to her as much as I could, mom was having hard time with her phone or seeing to text. When I spoke to her maybe earlier from the last day I did, I had another dream and vision I saw years before. She was standing on the porch in Florida smiling waving goodbye. I woke up and knew she would be leaving. That vision in my dream prompted this post.
"Children's children are a crown to the aged, and parents are the pride of their children." Proverbs 17:6
Here about two years ago my mom gave her testimony at her church before heading back to live in Florida with my sister and her family. I don't have the audio yet (working on it) however, I listened livestream and was blown away to hear she gave her life to the Lord at fourteen at a Billy Graham Crusade. My first thought was gee that would have been nice to have known! I also appreciated what she said, that she had made many mistakes. I can't quote word for word but will said God was there. I know exactly how this is.
Knowing you have God in your heart as savior you know that we are not yet perfected we still make mistakes but God in his love for us His mercies are new every morning we have forgiveness in Him and a relationship with Him. He is working out all the details of our lives - that is those who are His. This is what make it hard for the unbelieving to understand. We needed a Savior which is Jesus. And those who are His know it in their hearts, though we do make mistakes we know our destination. My mom knew this and she is there. I can celebrate that as I miss her here.
The LORD is near to the brokenhearted; He saves the contrite in spirit. Psalm 34:18
He also restores families! And will continue even if some do know how this can be, He is hearing someones prayer.
"I will restore to you the years that the locust hath eaten, Joel 2:25
"Very truly I tell you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life." John 5:24
Nancy Lou (Baker) Dickey (1939 – 2025)
We will be celebrating Nancy’s life on March 22, 2025, 2:00 PM Saturday at Salina Bible Church, 4132 PA-819, Avonmore, PA 15618, with refreshments following.
With Nancy’s faith in the Lord, she could stand on His word. ‘We are confident, I say, and would prefer to be away from body and home with the Lord. 2 Corinthians 5:8.
As I sit here I am having a difficult time putting down what has been going through my mind and what I'd like to share (adding with what can be an in-depth subject) I want to keep it simple hoping it relevant to what is being shared. The chosen title could probably include "getting along," as people seem to struggle in this department as we've witnessed over the past decade or so. People every where, even in families are lacking the ability to get along (agree to disagree) with love and kindness. Maybe it's just me ~
People use the word kindness as part of their profiles, and descriptive intros into their Instagram and Facebook pages, as well as when sharing - in ways - pointing out faults of others. On the flip - you could say that love and kindness which a person shares daily is much like living out "Christianity" it is indeed a lifestyle not simply a religion that people use to hide behind and continue pointing out the faults of others. As one professing to be Christian, over the years I have always put forth the effort to not practiced this behavior, however, (We all have faults, yes?) As it is clearly stated in Romans 3:10,12 ESV
"None is righteous, no, not one; . . . no one does good not even one."
The verses I shared in part speak volumes. I'm not saying you have to be a Christian to live a loving and kind lifestyle, but it does depict (should) a believers life who has a relationship with Jesus.
"as it is written:
"None is righteous, no not one; no one understands; no one seeks for God. All have turned aside; together they have become worthless; no one does good, not even one." Romans 3:10-12
It clearly states what shape the heart of man is in. No one is perfect, we have faults, we make mistakes, we can be prideful and self-centered, worldly, loveless and unkind - even live a life not seeing we are in the state we are in. My gram would say, "a sad state of affairs we find ourselves."
Everyone can have issues and bad days - we can even strive to do better and be "good," all the while trying to figure out why things are the way they are. Why others do as they do and wishing things were different. While in turn not truly making a difference or helping things to improve. Just wanting "others" to be more loving and kind.
"Bad behavior from others should not define who you are."
The older I get I still recognize and share frequently, our responses can be a true test of who we are in growth and maturity, how much time we invest in our relationship with the Lord can be shown through or day by our response with others. It can tell us quickly who we are and whether we need more "growth"and change within ourselves. (always).
I'm sure we've all experienced in conversations, if we are able to have an honest one, how unpleasant it can be when there are disagreements - pick any subject it doesn't matter - when fingers are pointing out as it literally goes in that direction even before a conversation starts, there is no love or kindness with an already negative formed opinion - or ever getting along. In families reconciliations sometimes never happen, people give up stating 'so and so' will never change, this is how they are and have always been . . . I've made this mistake myself and when it comes to mind - hoping to seek forgiveness. But I'm not talking here about outside influences as with - "show me who your friends are and I'll tell you who you are." But if truth be told even if that were so, either way we can do better in our responses.
Love and kindness should start with us when responding to others, how we communicate - yes, not always easy; mostly we could look at re-wording instead of flying off the top of our heads and by stepping in with love and that "kindness." How bout - putting any and all pride aside, maybe a competitive side of having to be heard, it happens. God hears us, He can and will definitely work out all the details. (We need to be willing to let Him help, it's easier that why.) My husband used to say don't send that first draft. Also there will be misunderstanding and mis-interpretations when trying to have in-depth conversation with what was meant for sound bites.
All that I shared, I could share more, are bits and pieces of things I've been thinking recently from current conversations, reading old blog posts about love and Valentines, with a confirmed viewing of a couple scripture verses I wrote down several years ago about how much God loves us and gives us instructions on how to share love and kindness - getting along ~
Love
Who is a God like thee, who pardons iniquity and passes over the rebellious act of the remnant of His possessions? He does not retain His anger forever, because He delights in unchanging love. Micah 7:18 NASB (He's love is unchanging, I'm thankful - Amen)
So in one of my old little notebooks that had the corner chewed - I had Romans 14:1-23 listed - I'll share in part, I will say that it isn't necessarily about what I'm posting about today, it has valid points to consider when "getting along" with others. Much like today the Christians of the day were disgruntled when Paul wrote Romans. Paul was conveying how they/we should get along, they were concerned over secondary matters much like today. Sadly when we squabble over little things it can set the tone for important ones.
Romans 14, is about principles of conscience and self denial on behalf of others - I love little topical references in my old Bible. I hope you take the time to read the chapter for yourself.
The verses I chose to share fit well with my title. I'm using different translations in hopes that everyone can take away something useful while being encouraged.
(1) Now accept the one (other believers NIV) who is weak in faith, but not for the purpose of passing judgement on his opinions. NASB [without quarreling over disputable matters. NIV]
Remember this chapter speaks of the disagreements that was happening over food and days reconized. Again, Paul wrote instructions that can be applied to other matters for us today.
(13) Therefore let us not judge (criticize AMP, stop passing judgement NIV) one another anymore, but rather determine this - not to put an obstacle or a stumbling block in a brother's way. NASB
(17) for the kingdom of God is not eating and drinking, but righteousness (living a life of goodness NLT) and peace and joy in the Holy Spirit. NASB
(18) For he who is this way serves Christ is acceptable to God and approved (favorable opinion of) by men. NASB. Serving the Anointed One by walking in these kingdom realities pleases God and earns the respect of others. TPT - Simply Everyone enjoys a fitting reply; it is wonderful to say the right thing at the right time! Proverbs 15:23 Kind words are like honey - sweet to the soul and healthy for the body Pr 16:24 NLT A little leaven (yeast) leavens the whole lump. Galatians 5:9 ESV (leaven can be a good example of kindness or criticism). (18) If you serve Christ with this attitude, you will please God and others will approve of you, too. NLT
Lastly, Chapter 14 and into 15 are wonderful verses to think on. I can certainly speak for myself when I say and by what I observe, Yes, we all can do better, I know I can for today.
For whatever was written in earlier times was written for our instruction, that through perseverance and the encouragement of Scriptures we might have hope. Now may the God who gives perseverance and encouragement grant you to be of the same mind with one another according to Christ Jesus; that with one accord you may voice glorify the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ. Romans 15:4-6 NASB
